Stop Drinking and Start Living

246. Self Care vs. Self Love

October 25, 2023 Mary Wagstaff Season 1 Episode 246
Stop Drinking and Start Living
246. Self Care vs. Self Love
Show Notes

In this introspective podcast episode, I explore the deep layers of self-love, self-care, and self-awareness. Reflecting on my recent yoga experiences and encounters with insightful teachers, I explore the profound question from Poet Andrea Gibson: Is my attention on loving, or is it on who isn't loving me? 

I discuss the societal pressures around beauty and aging, acknowledging the fine line between self-care practices and self-love. Drawing from personal experiences and lessons, I invite listeners to consider the transformative power of cultivating self-love as a foundation for all other aspects of life.

Key Takeaways:

  • Attention on Love: Reflect on whether your focus is on love, solutions, and self-compassion, or on who isn't loving you or the problems, allowing for mindfulness in the present moment.
  • Cultivating the Witness: Practice moving beyond thought, connecting with your essential self, the unflinching consciousness within you, fostering stability and self-awareness.
  • Embracing Joy: Challenge the ability to experience natural joy without relying on external substances or circumstances, recognizing it as a profound aspect of self-discovery.
  • Self-Care vs. Self-Love: Question the intention behind self-care practices, discerning if they stem from a place of self-love or societal pressures, emphasizing the importance of self-love as the foundation of well-being.
  • Starting with Self-Love: Prioritize self-love as a prerequisite for happiness and contentment, understanding that external changes or practices might enhance but not replace the core of self-acceptance and love.

I mention the episode of Elena Brower's podcast with Andrea. Please take a listen here.

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